Narcissism: How One Book Captures What It's Like to Love a Narcissist
I love a good read, and the latest book I just finished was just that! Monique Elise's Dilemmas of a Damsel: Part 2 proved to be a great piece of fiction. The book is a second part to Elise's Dilemmas of Damsel series; a series that follows the lives of three girlfriends: Jade, Blair, and Kara. While Elise's first book details the life of Jade, her second one follows the character Blair, a young black woman who's an artist looking for love and identity.
Throughout the book Elise paints Blair as an optimistic woman. A character with vision but also one with deep rooted insecurities. You see this play out in her one-sided relationship with her boyfriend. In her romantic relationship, Blair's character strives for familiarity but she does it at the expense of her own happiness. As the story plays out, it is clear to see that Blair falls in love with a narcissist.
Gems, I want you to read the book so I won't give too much away but, I will say Elise does a phenomenal job at capturing the emotional battle many face when it comes to loving a narcissist. Like so many women in real life, Blair wanted love to work so bad she became stagnant in a really unhealthy situation and as a result she endured:
Embarrassment. Why? Because:
She loved a narcissist and narcissist are self-involved and only want you for their own benefit. A narcissist will have you feeling like you are the only who is trying and that can be the BIGGEST embarrassment because in reality, you ARE the only one trying! Gems, too many of us have been there and the sad part is everyone close to you always sees it before you. This embarrassment turns out to be emotional abuse.
Depression. Why? Because:
She loved a narcissist and narcissist WILL always have you feeling overlooked and ignored. Which can lead to low self-esteem and depression. Narcissist are good at making you (their partner) feel bad about their actions. They love to assign ill placed blame. Narcissist cannot see pass their own thoughts and feelings and they only protect themselves as a result. Sigh! To be in a one-sided love, how horrible is that?
Discontentment. Why? Because:
She loved a narcissist and you will never be enough for the narcissist. This is a reality that is hard for many to come to terms with. Gems, sometimes we feel like if we just love harder everything will be okay but this is not the case. In doing this we lose ourselves and become unhappy with ourselves because it is exhausting (and ineffective). Don't be the woman that one day looks in the mirror and no longer sees herself. You will end up only seeing the product of a bad relationship.
Ultimately, Elise speaks to an urgent problem that many women face today; emotional abuse. This book captures a very real struggle however, Blair's story is one of self discovery and self-love. I strongly urge you Gems to go out and get Dilemmas of a Damsel: Part 2. Heck! Go and pick up the whole series because Dilemmas of a Damsel is a book series to get in to and yes part three is on the way!
Learn more about the author and purchase books at https://www.moniqueelise.com/,
